When firm becomes harsh becomes rude

Recently, there were a few episodes which got me riled. It pertains to parenting styles. I think there is no excuse for rudeness. Parents will claim they are being firm and some call it tough love. But really, is there any excuse for calling a child an idiot or calling them useless? And what do the child learn in the process other than that they are worthless. How does it help them not make the same mistake again? Why do we always treat people we love so unkindly? Being a parent means we have to be responsible for our behaviour and speech.

I feel very sorry for the child. The hurt is more than a bruised ego, it's the perceived truth of what a parent says.