I aspire...

I have an email box that is labeled as "Happy Emails". This is the box I open when I'm down in the dumps at work. It reminds me that bad times don't last and good times exist. One email went to this box very recently. One of my staff (who is really more like a friend and colleague) left for greener pasture. He sent a farewell note to about 10 other colleagues in the section. I was surprised and very touched by what he wrote. And it also left me with a tinge of guilt,... because I feel so undeserving of his praise. I had been his supervisor for 3 years and frankly, I have always felt that I did him injustice. I did not mentor or groom him. I did not hand hold or provide much guidance. I was not a good "boss" at all. I was a friend. The intriguing thing is, his description is very accurate of a particular person I admire and aspire to be. And I do not think I'm even close to being where this person is, as a boss. Nevertheless, I was still touched that I had somehow, unknowingly, impacted him. I aspire to be what he has written, and hopefully more. Then, I'd feel I deserve the accolade.

Email from LT
Hui San: Boss!! I think you're the best boss anyone could hope for -your intense focus on common logic, irreverence for rules, genuine concern for subordinates, and that sincerity you exude just makes anyone feel at ease and not just open, but totally non-defensive. I realise now that if I ever were to be a boss, I'd aspire to be a boss like you. You are the personification of all the values we've learnt in theories about the perfect boss, and people get things done for you not because they have to, but because they want to. To put it more succintly in the terms of a speaker I heard before, "in times of war, under great duress, some soldiers would stick a knife into their commanders' backs when told to charge. Others would charge without question, because they trust their commanders." But besides being a boss, you're a great friend to have also.. keep in touch with Adel and me! We'll look forward to your updates on FB :D I sincerely wish you the best in your career and family life, and that Lucas will grow up to be like Vincent and Lyra will grow up to be like.. you? (No?)

I'm not rude

We had dinner with Edna and family on Saturday to celebrate Edna's daddy's scholarship. We went to this Japanese resturant, Nihon Mura, at Level 2 of IRAS. Good food at reasonable price. Sushi plates off conveyor belt is at $0.99, beef Tepankaki set is at $14.00 and the Tako Sashimi is at only $6.50, the cheapest I had so far. The place is spacious enough for 4 little kids to roam around. I would highly recommend this place.

Halfway through dinner, Edna and Lucas had some argument as they always do and this is a short except of what transpired.

Lucas: (saying something rude)
Edna: Lucas, don't be rude okay?
Lucas: ... I'm not rude okay, I'm Lucas! (sniggers)
Edna: +_+"""

I thought that was a funny and quick retort. Very KL and very typical of him.

Random...

I realised I haven't posted in a while. Perennnial problem of all Singaporeans; no time.

Lots of changes this year already. Lyra promoted from Infant Care to Childcare, Lucas had a change of Childcare and is now with Lyra, I'll be having a change of workplace and jobscope in April. It's going to be a busy year and I hope a meaningful and rewarding one.

Now, I want to capture a couple of correspondences I had with Lucas recently which taught me 2 lessons.

Episode 1
End of Lucas's 1st day at Childcare
San: Lucas, how was your 1st day? Did you make any new friends?
Lucas: Good... I made 1 very nice new friend. She is very nice.
San: Oh, why is she nice?
Lucas: Because she wants to marry me.
San:... ... Oh... I see, and you want to marry her? (Lucas nods) So what's her name?
Lucas:... eh... I cannot remember.

Next morning at the Childcare
Future Daughter-in-law: Lucas, Lucas... you here!
Lucas: (Holding girl's hand) Mommy, this is the girl I want to marry.
San: (to the giggling girl) Hello! Nice meeting you. (To Lucas) So what is her name?
Lucas: (to the girl) Eh, what's your name?
san: +_+"""

Lesson: A rose by any other name, smells as sweet. Love the person for the way he/she is... look at substance, not form.

Episode 2
At 11pm, catching tail end of 'Titanic'.
San: Lucas, why don't you go to bed? You look very sleepy.
Lucas: I don't want. I want to finish watching 'Titanic'.
San: I can tell you the ending. Go sleep lah.
Lucas: Cannot.
San: Why?
Lucas: I must watch then I can tell my children the story next time when they ask me...
San: +_+"""

Lesson: Start with end in mind and you can accomplish much.